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I believe that I can help with this situation.
I know that you are feeling very distraught and perhaps guilty that you had failed in some way..
Your son mishandled a situation in which he was being bullied and he will probably be punished beyond the limits of his mistake.
He wanted to neutralize and get back at the bully and fortunately choose a non-violent method of doing so.
The other boy may have been particularly mean to him which incited him more, or your son may have just played a mean prank back, if the other boy was indeed harassing him.
He made a terrible error of judgment, but at his age may not have been able to think through the consequences of his action.
I see that you are typing and I shall wait.
Have you told the other boy's parent yet or any authorities?
You can still remain calm and continue to love him, but you need to get to the bottom of this.
The other child may be suffering at home for this and I believe that you need to call his family and apologize and get him off the hook.
It is late but this is urgent as it may be saving the boy's hide.
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Yes I will stay on.
I am happy to help you.
Be stern with your son but not angry. Explain to him that if he is being bullied that he needs to talk to you about it or needs to confront the bully.
He needs to have privileges taken away
He needs to write a letter of apology to the boys parents.
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If your son seems to be in denial about the seriousness of what he did then perhaps he needs to speak to a counselor to find out if he has any unresolved issues that may emerge again.
This may just have been an error of judgment by a young boy who responded incorrectly to possible harassment or bullying.
This was a very inappropriate response to possible harassment showing immaturity, bad judgment but no violence.
What is the truth? Tell me first.
The question was "did your son have remorse".
You should tell her yes, very much so, and then make sure that he does. You will have to see to it.
If you tell her no, there may be very serious consequences beyond what he deserves.
And if he doesn't then he will need counselling for sure.
So he was perhaps trying to frame the boy for what the boy actually did.
If this is true then your son thought he was protecting himself and acted because he was scared.
BotXXXXX XXXXXne is: the truth is not yet known and it must come out, perhaps with you and a counselor or the school principle and guidance counsellor.
Decisions cannot be made until the truth i known.
Tell him that you want him to tell you the whole truth with no lies, and that you will take notes an he will sign it as a confession to you, and that eery word must be true with no omissions or lies.
Tell him it will go much better if it is true.
That is good. He must be truthful and he MUST show remorse.
You will all get past this.
Good kids make errors of judgment.
If I have helped, then you are a blessing to me.
I shall keep your family in my prayers.
You are most welcome
Things will be fine and you will settle down.