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I believe that I can help.
I understand why a schedule such as this may not be in a child's best interest.
In your particular case, what are your chief concerns?
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I appriciate your feedback , what is my next step? I feel that my son is too young and not ready for a step like this. I havent been away from him for longer then a couple days since he was born!
This book will give you the best suggestions and ammunition/professional authoritative guidance that will help you and your attorney, and may even convince your husband that this would be a bad and selfish arrangement.
I agree with you.
You do not have a lot of time, but you could delay the hearing.
I recommending that you find a child psychologist who professionally and regularly works in the legal system to back you up in court as an expert witness. This usually is a very effective method.
You could try to come up with a more reasonable schedule that your husband will agree to.
He may be doing this to gain leverage on any settlement (alimony, etc) that he made with you.
There are actually computer programs that are used to manage scheduling for visitation and custody and they may be helpful and save legal fees in the long run.
The software I had in mind is:
Custody X Change:
Ex husband. I will look into that book, but I have to go to mediation for the second time in a couple of days.. first was because he wanted to modify child support and won eventhough he owed back support. Just want the mediator to see that he needs to b with his mom
It is best to win on the first round but what is even better is to convince him to change his demands.
Sorry. Ex husband.
He may also be facing jail time for contempt of court (failure to pay). He may think that he will get his child support payments reduced.
He doesn't seem to be in a position of strength, and he is foolish to try to use your son as a pawn.
or daughter. You did not say.
Yes you did. Sorry. Your son.
I believe that getting a psychologist as an expert witness would be your strongest point.
Let him know that you will resist his attempts because you think it is not in your son's best interest.
When he sees how deadly serious you are he may back down.
I wont be going to court right away, first is mediation, the resolalution hearing. So I dont want to agree to what he wants in mediation.. rather it go to court.. except for the money ofcourse. Ive already told him I dont agree and he seems to think he will win.. just want whats best for my son! Since I cant bring anyone with me to mediation what do u think I should do?
You can't even bring your attorney?
Don't agree with anything then and let it go to court..
Not to mediation! No attorney. ?
Get that book right away and learn all you can.
Get a new attorney. That is reason enough to delay hearings or maybe even mediation until you can get new counsel.
Your ex-husband is probably bluffing. He doesn't know and the courts will be likely to favor you.
I hope so.. but like I said the last mediation I went to he was able to lower his child support even though he owed back! They only deal with one thing at a time
Go to see a psychologist right away and talk to her about separation anxiety. This is a topic you can bring up.
You need to keep a list of all expenses, need to hammer on the fact that he still owes you money and because he is irresponsible is not trustworthy to maintain your son.
Do both of you work?
Do you both have good child-care arranagements?
Yes! He is remarried and lives with all his in laws, so thinks they can watch him all the time. I live with boyfriend and son most of the time except when he has him 2 days a week and every other sunday overnight. My son just started kinder and between my boyfriend and I will have all nights off during the week, I changed my schedule when he started school
Will the move interfere with his kindergarten?
No dont think so. But still not ok with it
I understand that ! ! !
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Ok so botXXXXX XXXXXne??? Taken to much of your time. I will get that book
I am happy to help you. This is very critically important for you.
In any case you will work something out and you will all learn to live with it and your son with thrive.
I am so sorry that you have had to endure this, but all will be well in the end.
I shall keep all of you in my prayers.
You are so very welcome.
So Elliot with your experence in psychology you feel that at 5 years old child is not ready for a schedule such as this one? Without attorneys I should be able to convince the mediator of this, by discussing his age and the fact that I havent ever really been away from him for very long other then when he was on vacation with his dad! Other then age and that im his mom, any other points I should bring up?