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Bonnie, Psychologist
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We are potty training our daughter and she is doing great for

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We are potty training our daughter and she is doing great for #1 but won't do #2 on the potty, now she is holding it and pooping her underwear, what should I do to get her to use the potty for number two
Hello and thank you for consulting JA,
This is a common problem but may need medical intervention. When the child holds in the stool (either because it is painful or she is stubborn) it becomes hard and big and soft stool leaks around it. That just makes it more painful and the child holds in even more. It is a vicious cycle. First an xray may be needed to make sure it has not become too large. Consult the primary doctor who will recommend a routine to make the stool involuntary (usually mineral oil).

I hope that this problem will be solved quickly for you
Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Well we only need advise on the potty training like what to do to get her to do number two in the potty
Okay, assuming that there is no medical reason for her holding in, it may be best to take a laid back, matter-of-fact attitude. So when she poops in her pants, say "Oh dear, you had an accident." Take the messy pants to toilet and show her that you are putting poop in toilet and flushing. Then say, "Maybe next time you can poop into the toilet." When you flush the poop, take note of her reaction.....does she seem fearful? Then that may explain why she does not want to let a "part of her body" go down the drain. She may need reassurance that she cannot go down the drain. This is frequently the psychological reason for holding. Thus, Mr. Rodgers song

Hope this helps....
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