Hello, I am very happy to respond to a question from such a concerned parent. Before becoming a therapist, I was actually an elementary school teacher and was always grateful for involved parents. I think the fact that your daughter not only adjusted but thrived at the end of her first grade year showed major growth in her emotional adjustment to school. The fact that you ask if you are being over protective tells me that may be the case here; after all it is a mother's job to protect her children. Luckily, your daughter's current teacher will make the final decision after meeting with you and hearing your concerns. Since you think a great deal of her, I believe you will be able to trust her professional judgment about what is best for your daughter. So I hope that you can let go of your worry. It might help to sit down and write out all of your concerns to take with you to the appointment with her teacher. And remember, children are very resilient, so even if your daughter has to change classes, either way actually, I think she will be just fine. I hope this helps. Chat back if you have any questions. Take care, Eleanor
Hi Eleanor, Thanks for the advice, I like the idea of writing down my concerns before the school year starts. Even though my daughters teacher has the final decision, she has told me this will be based on my thoughts and feelings towards this at the beginning of the school year. I guess my question is about whether or not it's in my daughters best interest to be put into a classroom situation with a teacher that may not be able to meet her needs emotionally at such a young age? Is she too young to expect her to successfully adapt to this? If she were a few year older I would probably feel much differently and would likely welcome this.
Hi, good to hear back from you and thank you for the clarification about the decision. I have reread your initial question and this response very carefully in light of the final decision being yours. I think that your daughter's emotional needs are far more important than academic progress at this point. Give her another year to mature and grow with the teacher she loves. I think that is what your motherly intuition is telling you and it is seldom wrong. I hope it is a wonderful school year for her and for you, Eleanor
Thanks for you advice Eleanor, I appreciate your perspective. As much as I would like my daughter to be challenged academically there will be plenty of opportunities to make this the priority in the coming school years. I will likely ask her to stay with her current teacher so that she has another year to grow a little stronger and be better prepared in grade three.