Thank you for the details of what you have been doing to help you son fall to sleep and stay asleep longer. Have you discussed with you son's doctor other possible issues keeping him from resting comfortably? In my past experience I have seen children that have ear infections act similarly to your son. Please explain any information your doctor has shared and I will send my ideas as soon as I read your reply.
He was at the doc about a month ago and all was great. He isn't showing any symptoms of an ear infection, and is sleeping through the night (he'll have a slight night wake, and then put himself back to sleep) but we don't have crying in middle of the night anymore. No fever... or pulling on the ear. Is the only way to diagnose one to take to the doc?
Additionally, we spoke to her about sleep and she just said that "sleep training is a bear" and recommended CIO method. We have done this here and there, but the poor thing is just so inconsistent with his habits. He'll have 5 nights of going to bed great, and then 3 screaming like crazy past 3.
Thank you for your quick response. I can only imagine how difficult this is for you all. I think my next suggestion then would be to start paying to attention to his daily routines. I would start by keeping track of the foods he is eating, the amount of time he is sleeping during the day, and if there are activities for him to do so he is tired when he goes to sleep at night. I would also suggest a bath before bed as well. There are relaxation lotions that have lavender in them which would be good to use while doing massage on him. If you look up baby massage on line you will find many options and directions on exactly how to help the little guy to relax a little more. I would suggest once you have about two weeks of information to start looking over it to see if by chance maybe on the nights he has trouble going down he has had some gas producing foods or slept more during the day. I would also look into the possibility of playing classical music in his room while he falls to sleep. I know this can be soothing and also great for brain development. Once you have completed the sleep diary (which would be good to show his doctor as well) you will have a lot more to look at and play around with a bit to hopefully help him rest more consistently. I wish you the best of luck. If I can be of any more help please do not hesitate to contact me on here.
Best of luck,