that was an issue here definitely. she doesnt have friends where I live - its quite remote. She did start to "hang out" with one coworker but just a couple of weeks ago
at school, she is very social
no she did that on her own but very gradually. i had taken prozac in the past and weaned off. her psychiatrist was in Iowa and we are in CA. she moved here last year after her HS graduation.
yes it was very shocking. i had no idea she was at that point.
I am trying not to feel responsible
but i was also trying to let her be independent to a degree
ok. i firmly believe we are all responsible for our own happiness. i just wish i could've helped more. guess that is the mother side of me
ok thats a good idea. i did text her already and told her i hope she got to the hotel ok and to let me know when she gets to chicago tomorrow. that i love her no matter what
it was hard for me because my signif other thought i should be tougher with her. that i didnt have any backbone. but i knew she was struggling that would likely backfire
yes i told her that, too. that i would support her decision to help herself. but that I also believe she should eat better, exercise, etc to help w her emotional state
the lack of friends here was huge too, i know
she grew up there so she will search out her friends that are home i am sure. School is just a month away so that def help too
i will continue to make suggestions. thats really what i have done before.
i appreciate your feedback.
i will keep trying thank you
i was so happy that she wanted to live her so its very hard for me to see her leave like this
thanks much! have a great night
I reached out to my daughter with a proposal. She really wants a car at school this year (sophmore). I sent her an email (she said she didnt want to text or call) offering to pay for her flight back to CA to my home to pick up a car I just bought and take her belongings to school. If she doesnt do that, she has boxes here that she will need to ship and it will be quite expensive not to mention she wont have a car. I asked her to let me know by tomorrow so I can purchase the ticket in the 2 week discount period.
I talked to her dad who had mentioned the email and my offer to her to get a gauge on what she is thinking. He said he was surprised. She isnt too keen on the idea.
I am at a loss as to what I have done to upset her so much that she doesnt want to come back with me for a week before school and pick up a car to keep at school and to drive her belongings.
I am hurt that she wont talk to me and doesnt want to come here. Not sure how to cope. I am depressed and it affects the rest of my life. Suggestions?