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Looking for some advice in working with my daughter. She is 16, overweight, and I am unable to find anything to motivate her to become healthier. I am concerned about her health and the way some other kids are treating her.
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I still really need help - so lost as to what to do
Sorry for the delay!
Not a low self-esteem issue as I understand the term. She has a rather high opinion of herself and insists that she shouldn't have to conform to other people or societies what is "normal"... does that make sense. She knows she is bigger that most.
She wants a boyfriend and the things the other girls are doing. Without being blunt and saying that no boy is going to look twice at her in a romantic way - I've used the comparison of the boys that she thinks are attractive, then I told her that she isn't attracted to Ralphie May (comedian that is very large) - she agrees, but says she might like him once she got to know him (arrrggghhh) - and I reminded her that she wouldn't take the time to get to know him because so many things are decided in her mind at first sight, physical attraction, etc.
She has friends at school - but it isn't something that is going outside of school. I have tried to get her to just move when she is home; come help me in the yard, can you vacuum for me, etc. She can actually sit, in front of her computer, or a tv, or a book - for HOURS, upon HOURS.
At one point I had rewards on the table.... I'm just at the end of my rope. She is not healthy and the next stop is a doctor, but I'm hoping I can jump start something here.
Thank you so much for your reply.
On day two of your plan. Crossing all of our fingers. I'm also starting to back way off on doing things for, a little does of real world responsibilities.
Can we leave this "open" for now?