Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about this frustrating and concerning situation.
Could you please tell me how old is your daughter and what happened for her to radically change from getting A's and B's to C' s and D's?
Also you said that you have been threatening to send her to a private school for the past several years, then what have been the other core issues going on for these several years?
She is 12 years old and her attitude has changed quite a bit in the last year or so. I know a lot of it is her age, but there is no structure, discipline, etc. at the school she is currently attending. All she wants to do is text and stay on the computer all day long. We have limited her phone and computer time to one day a week and she is a much more pleasant person to be around, but she just enjoys annoying people and showing off.
Thank you for replying
This is very serious. First the school staff should take full responsibility for the quality of education they provide, from discipline to academics. you are totally right about the obvious need to seriously consider changing schools, once you have found no accountability in the current one.
On the other hand, f or a child her age to have been habituated to to use the computer and mobile phone "all day long" is totally unacceptable. Happily you have already limited the use of such devices to one day a week, that sounds very necessary and assertive, but would be useless if you do not keep it consistently in that way.
It is not healthy for a child her age to enjoy doing the wrong things, this is why my suggestion is for you to continue to improve discipline at home at every level, offering healthy and assertive affection and support, without spoiling her nor facilitating the misuse of PC and mobile phone. Your child needs to learn to be more responsible, caring, empathetic, assertive and to learn from her mistakes. She cannot learn nor develop these skills spontaneously, she needs you and your spouse to work on that, while school staff do the same. I suggest a change to a good school as soon as possible, once the deficiencies you reported are serious enough to justify such actions.
Your son could continue there, since as you said, he has shown good learning, socialization and no serious problematic behaviors.
Doe sit make sense?
Thank you for your response. I appreciate the advice of an outsider who does not know me or my family personally. Thank you!
You're very welcome.