My other daughter is seven.
I don't think there has been a change in her behavior, it is just the way it has always been. However, all conferences with her teachers are extremely positive. She is well-adapted, respectful to others and gets along with her classmates and excels in all areas of school.
She is this way with him as well, but he tends to be better at using humor and staying emotionally detached. He is also not with her as often, but I do try to learn from his example, it is just not my nature to emulate him daily.
To be honest, I feel that I go out of my way to leave my work at home to get her from school, because she is adamantly against taking the bus. (Her sister is fine with the bus) It is difficult to stop what I am doing to pick her up sometimes, but the worst is to then be treated so rudely when I am trying to do her a favor. However, writing this down it sounds selfish. Perhaps I am afraid she is pampered too much.As 99% of her classmates (we live in a spread out rural district) take the bus.
I do not spend quality time with her on a regular scheduled basis out side the home, but I am a mindful, attentive parent and I work hard at really listening when she is talking to me, working on art with her, teaching her to cook/bake, etc. It is most often the three of us, though.I More often than not when I ask if anyone wants to do things, be it skiing, biking,yoga,baking,art...her sister wants to do it as well. I think it would be good to have that time, but how to do it?
I think it is just her natural demeanor. I don't want to say too often that she is being negative as I don't want to tell her that story about herself and solidify it.
Thank you for your time, but a star chart? I don't think that is a suggestion to pay for. Also, why is she wanting negative attention, when she gets so much positive attention? In addition to this, we don't even own a television and I never heard your advice on the bus scenario. I just thought I'd try this site to see if there was any innovative parenting ideas. Thanks anyway, take care...