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In our divorce decree my ex husband is to get our son, one weekend friday through sunday 6pm to 6pm then the following weekend 6pm friday to saturday 4pm. This worked while my ex husband worked for Medcorp. Then when he got his job with AMR in June things changed. He was only getting him during the days before he had to work his midnight shifts and sometimes not at all. Like I said from June to January hardly at all. I would even call and ask if he wanted him and he would say "maybe" if I get some sleep before work. My ex husband just quit his job with AMR February 9, 2013 and now wants what the divorce papers say. He has a new job, but does not know what his hours will be. When my ex is "sick" or has to go into work he drops our son off with his mother and father without telling me and in our divorce papers our son is to come back home to me or my parents when this happens. My son is comfortable where ever he goes so that isn't an issue but I want what is best for our young son. I recently started taking him to a babysitter who also watches one other child his age so he can learn to play well with other children before pre-school. My ex feels during those times he should get him.I'm so confused.
My ex husband does take care of our son when it is convenient for him. When it is not he drops him off with my ex mother in law and does not tell me until she calls me to pick him up. My ex husband is about control in all things and since he cannot control me, he feels the courts will side with him so he can get his way. He has no desire to co-parent with me since I feel this will be best for our young son. I do not feel carting our young son back and forth every other week to each parent will be good for him, I'm afraid it will creat more problems for my son in the long run. Like I said my son was hitting and biting and acting our before I had placed him with our babysitter who also watches a boy his age. Now our son is learning to share, pick up his toys no longer biting and hitting. I feel the acting out in the first place was because when he was with my ex he doesn't have a structure, yet here he has a controlled structure daily.