HI, I understand your concerns and why you would consider having her finish what he started already. I think if she in general finishes what he starts and is a responsible person normally finishing her obligations then I think it would be fine to allow her to come back sooner, so she can go into dorm style living first. Sometimes it is fine to change our mind the problem is if it happens on consistent basis and one never follows through or is looking for an excuse. If it could be dangerous and she is not happy also will not affect her grades I would say allow her to move back in the fall and get into the dorm style living. This way the change will be easier for her and she will get to know people before he starts the apartment style living. Hope that helped! I wish you both the best.
She was not a good responsbile HS student.. lazy. Socially, she never got into trouble. She has a 3.3 grade average now in college.. which is a far cry from the 2.50 she had in HS. She truly likes the what she is learning, but has failed to make a good circle of friends and doesn't like the environment of the city she is living in now. Overall, she is on the lazy, unmotivated side in general but is proving otherwise in college. Following through has never been a strong suit and she eventually gets things done waiting ultimately for the last possible minute. Hoping this changes as she matures and I am already seeing those changes. She has not asked about transfering last quarter, so this is my idea as i think it might benefit her.
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In this case it would make sense for her to stay in order to learn responsibility. However, the positive side here is that it was your idea for her to leave earlier. In this case I would present this option to her and maybe let her decide. Based on her history it may not be a good idea if she was giving the option, but since you are offering that is fine since sometimes in life we can change things in certain situations.
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Okay, so you think I should give her the option of transfering last quarter or stick it out where she is until Fall? You don't see making her follow through with her decision of choosing this campus through the rest of the school term is beneficial based on the information I have supplied you with and that I should let her have the choice? I want to make sure I fully understand your answer. It is hard to know these days what to do has hovering is not a good thing and they need to grow and not sure about the "tough love" part.