Thank you for the quick advice.
I help out with the children more than most dads. I pick my 5 year old up from school and take him to all of his extra curricular activities. I also feed and bath them as needed. I take our five year for the whole day often(when I am not working, weekends). The only time she leaves the baby is when I am home, so she can run a quick errand, Never more than 2 hours. She will only leave the baby with me.
When the baby goes to bed, she goes w/ the baby. So, there is no alone time after the children are asleep.
When I show affection she looks at me like I am crazy and tells me that she wants nothing to do with that.
I am at the point where I am either going to cheat on her, or leave her. I don't want to do either one. I want to make this work, but I feel I have done everything I can.
We have tried 2 counselors and both times she quit when the counselors started telling her the changes she needed to make. As soon as she starts hearing things she does not like she is done and shuts down. This is also the case when we talk about things. Usually when I want to discuss something she tells me right now is not a good time. That she has to many things going on to focus on what I want to discuss.