Hello, is there any idea of what upset him about the party?
I would like to help you if I may?
It seems that what you did for your child was kind. Maybe he does not like to spend time off, hosting others. Maybe if I understood a little more of the history with social events, I could help more.
Yes, teenagers will be teenagers. I see this as more of a relationship issue. He feels that you are spoiling them. You are not. Maybe in the future, have events when he is not around so that the conflict will not exist. I would not try to depend on any assistance from him
Yes, I believe that there are always moments that we clash as humans with our partners. The great thing is, you know this is an issue, so you can know what to expect in the future. The bad thing is, it is a very bad pattern.
It for sure sounds like there are some controlling issues here. The act of refraining and ignoring you when he is upset, is a form of emotional abuse. He most likely does not even know he is doing this. That is a very long marriage. I am very sorry that you never reached the partnership level.
I would usually suggest some sort of counseling but I can tell from your description, he is not the type. Try to open up a line of communication with him..Slowly but steady about the treatment of you and how it hurts you.
Sometimes men shut down because they honestly do not know how to handle the present situation. But, lashing out is another issue. Is there any chance of communication?
It seems that you are very unhappy with your relationship. I am very sorry for you. Would you like me to refer you to someone in psychology, I am almost there but not a certified Doctor yet.
I am thinking there are some techniques you could use with him...I just do not want to advise incorrectly.
I can tell very much so.
Let me see if I can find another expert to help you dear.
I have sent your question to another category. Let me know if you get someone that can help you further dear.
If you would like too, you can. If you start a new thread, There are many areas that may be able to help you, Guidance, tarot or mental health. I hope you find some more help