I put together a 4 column sheet. Column 1 showed very clear house rules he was to obey, 2 showed the consequences (loss of privileges) for breaking those rules, 3 showed a way to earn back his consequences and 4 showed the list of privileges he has ie: computer, tv, friends over, cell phone, etc.). Anyway, I told him if he became unmanageable or violent I would have no option than to call the police. He actually did really well until my ex husband came to pick up our youngest boy who is 12 for visitations . Regan who is 16 and I made the contract for is protected by the court from my ex for child abuse and they have hardly seen eachother or spoke for the last 4 years. Well, Regan was made because he had such strict rules to follow he went out and complained. My ex Thomas told him that if I made him do thing he didn't want to do, especially Therapy he would file an injunction against me in court. Well, now Regan thinks he has all the power now. I told him that that means nothings and that Thomas can file anything he wants. I had to get a letter from my lawyer proving that to show Regan so he would believe me. Now he is better but not as good as he was. He still has Thomas calling and feeling him lies. It's really sick when my ex is trying to hurt me but uses his son as a go between to do it. Do you have any advice with that one?