Hi, My name is XXXXX XXXXX I would love to help you. Please give me a few minutes to read your question carefully in order to give you the best response possible. I will request more info if needed. Thanks
I have to go to exercise in a few minutes so if at a point I dont answer you will know I will be here for another 20 minutes then out for an hour and 15 minutew thanks
Thanks for letting me know. I will then turn this question to the question and answer mode that way we can continue at your availability and it will alert me when you are responding as well as alert you when I respond to your email. Your feelings are understandable because you love your grandaughter so much and this hurts you. However, 4 year olds do not have control of their feelings and sometimes can push their own parents away. I think you hit the nail on the head when you say she may think subcounciously that she is not being loyal to her other grandmother. Can I ask you a few questions. You can answer when its best for you then we can continue.
Go ahead this is important thanks
Does she see her other grandmother less than you, same, or more?
If you could tell me examples of how she treats you that would help as well.
Examples of how she changes and what does she do in front of the other grandmother.
What type of relationship do you have with the other grandmother?
Yes but I am soo involved with her too as the parents allow me to be...I also have not seen her much the last couple weeks as I was organizing for my daughter in law who is expecting again and has a lot of things stored at our house and redecorating for children a lake house in missouri where we live most of the time and will enable us to have family activities there with our other 2 grand children as well...
this isnt the fist time this happened, the other grandma is blindly in love
I think it is good you let your daughter in law know. What was her response and what type of relationship do you have with her?
India pushes me away, only wants to be near the other grand parents like she thinks she is not being loyal to them if she likes me
I will review your answer and let you know if I have more questions. Thanks for the information. Would you like me to leave it in this chat or switch it over as I explained?
How long has this been going on? Is this a new thing or going on a while? Has anyone realized prior. I apologize for all the questions. I just want to help the best that I can.
the other grandma is oblivious to me she usually was like that before with her daughter in my presence she talks over me like i am not there she does not care about my feelings at all and i have to accept that i dont want to make a problem, I would not call her at all a friend because friend is a special word she is there but not a deep person she only wants her family and that is HERS and she tries later to sort of patch it up but it is a standard behavior, she wont change i dont think it is very deep, I could talk to her but my daughter in law is first, I am confused
I have a GREAT relationship with my daughter in law
I suppose it has always gone on as mom is not worried about me...ja
My daughter in law felt bad last night but said I shouldnt read into it but I thought is was a good opportunity to bring it up in a nice way, of course for them it isnt nice to have someone say they are uncomfortable but...
I am going to exercise now thanks back in an hour
they also say sometimes she pushes her parents away
Ok, I am still reading...I will switch it over and you will have my answer in your email. We can also continue there as well. Have a great time and try not to stay upset.
I think anyone who was aware would notice it my grand daughter treats me very well alone, I always take 2nd place with my daughter in law and encourage my grand daughter to ask mom or be with mom first I know my place but i have some limits and dont want to be in situations where i will get upset and hurt unless you tell me for my daughter in law i should accept the things i cannot change and after last night never bring it up again and live with it...i need help thanks! bye for now
Thank you for your response i appreciate it very much!!