I originally setup days for ohim to come and see her because he was just popping up whenever he felt. Sometimes really late at night when she was sleeping and it was interrupting the schedule I had put her one. He follwed the schedule for a while until the girlfriend had a problem with him coming to my home. I have since offered to meet him at public places or his moms house to see his daughter. His girlfriend has a problem with him meeting me at his moms house and he has not showed up for any meetings at the public places. When he offers to see her its always like 20 minutes before he wants to meet which doesnt always go with my schedule. It is hard to stay positive because he takes care of and spends time with his other child and it bothers me when he has not time for our child. I have offered for him and I to sit down and discuss his role in our daughters life and he has not made any attempts to have this conversation. He claims that he wants to be a part of her life and that he misses her and thinks of her but none of his actions show this.
The lines of communication are limited. He does not contact me in regards XXXXX XXXXX child and I have stopped giving info in regards XXXXX XXXXX daughters medical situation because he takes no part in the therapy or doctor visits.
His girlfriend is not allowed around my child because she has made threats against me and my daughter and I do not feel comfortable in that situation. Which is a tough position becaue their daught er has a birthday coming up and I want my daughter to know her sister but I do not trust my child around the woman. How should I handle that situation?
As for the sisters having a relationship, originally the girlfriend stated she did nothave a problem with me around her daughter and the kids had been around each other maybe 3 times for a couple of hours. They are 5 months apart so neither one of them really understand that they are sisters. I suggested to him a few months back and he agreed that he would start bringing the little girl with him at lease once a month so that the girls could get to know each other but somewhere along the way the girlfriend has told him that she doesnt want him aroundf me and that she really doesnt want her child around me either so he has never brought the little girl around for a visit with my daughter.
I will suggest that he give me some dates and times that he is available but he is one of those people that do not like to plan in advance and this situation I feel is becoming more problem then what is worth. I want him to have a relationship with my daughter but I feel like I am begging him to do so. He and the girl expect me to allow my child to come around her but I dont feel like that is the best situation .
I agree that the girlfirend is not bringing abything positive to the situation but unfirtunately he doesnt see that
ok thank you. I was just looking for ways to promote him seeing her and spennding time with her I want them to have a relationship. Try to help him see that the choices he is making behind his girlfriend is hurting his relationship with his daughter. I dont want my daughter to grow up resenting and hating her father. Thanks for your help.
is there any other advice you can give is there something else that I can try to help promote this relationship is there something that I should be trying/doing that I am not already? Should I just continue to push and promote this relationship or should I leave well enough alone?
she will be 5 months on Sunday.
He will not call her and will not answer my calls when his girlfriend is home but the evenings is the only time I can call him when I have my daughter becasue I work
I send him pics of her and he doesnt respond to even acknowledge that he has received the pictures
I dont update her on her medical situatio, but I will try doing that.
yes she is still tiny but from the books I read the relatonship needs to be started early in order for them to have a healthy relationship. Am I worrying to much about the relationship since she is still so tiny?
ok I will give that a shot. it hurts obviously that he seems not to care and doesnt want to be aprat of her life but i just wanted to make sure that i was doing all i could do for her and him have a relationship. thanks for all of your advice
will do thanks please keep in touch XXXXX@XXXXXX.XXX