If you have ideas that have worked for you then I don't see a problem with asking her if she would like to know what worked for you. Tell her how difficult it is to raise children and you know what she is going through then tell her you developed some ideas that have worked for you in the past and you would like to know if she would like some ideas. Let her know that you will be there for her and can help her with a plan if she likes. She may accept your advice, so I would not be worried about asking her. This may be what she is needing right now. If she does not want to hear your ideas then it may be a case of that people tend to not listen to the people closest to them, but rather strangers. This really depends on the person, but that is where I would start if I were you. Please let me know if I can be of further help.
Thanks. That is good advice. One other thing please. Can you direct me to "The best resource either online or book form 101" for this aspect of parenting?
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There are so many types of parenting for all different ages. The best thing is to check in your local library at various books and read the back as well as a few pages in order to see what works best for you both depending on the types of issues she is having. You can get a good idea with that to see if you think it is worth reading or presenting to her.