So far I am very satisfied with what you are saying. I know in my heart of hearts this is no good. I will definitely dis-encourage this relationship & also insist that any and all interacting will be monitored by me and/or done with me being present. If I totally forbid it, the likely outcome would be rebellion & sneaking around.
I am also very curious, while doing my research, would you agree with this or not....
Copied from: http://parentingteens.about.com/u/ua/teendating/teendatingage.04.htm
Dating has no purpose.
Parents and teens embrace dating as a normal part of being a teenager. The truth of that is "single dating", that is having a boyfriend or girlfriend, does not benefit teens in anyway. Social skills can be developed without dating. Getting to know someone can be done on a "friends only" basis. There is no purpose to dating except to show "posession" of the other person and keep them "off the market" which is selfish. Real love can never develop out of that. Also, dating only provides an implied acceptance for a physical relationship. If "getting it on" is the only reason for dating, that too is a purely selfish motivation and a "real" relationship can never grow from that. The teen brain does not fully mature until around the age of 21. Until that time, the portion of the brain that controls empathy(prefrontal cortex) is not fully developed. Why would a parent allow a child without a fully developed brain to make decisions that could potentially effect their lives forever?
I strictly do not believe in sex before 21 as I was unfortunately scarred by becoming pregnant @ age 16 and coerced my family, the father's family & the father to abort the baby. Which indelibly emotionally scarred me for life.
Thanks again for all of your great advice & will use this information in my upcoming & ongoing conversations with her.
God bless & take care <3
Thank you for your generous rating and bonus. I am sorry what happened to you at such a young age
I do agree with you about the no sex before 21 as well, but I do understand parents have different views in that. You are correct that is does scar them even the emotion of it all can be very overwhelming and confusing. It things were perfect and I had full control I would have my kids wait until marriage. It has been my pleasure working with you and happy I could be of help. All the best on talking with your daughter and the teenage years up ahead.