Is the session with the little girl 'normal' per se or is it a result of the incident with the boy ??? Is it a dominance/ power thing that my daughter now wants to 'inflict' on the 5 year old as she was by the 10 year old????
I'm not sure you can answer this question but.....
I'm not sure about the fine line of counselling vs. not..... in that I know there is an element of 'normalacy' to the 10 year old boys curiousity and she and I discussed the 'right and the wrong' of that behviour BUT I'm not sure if counselling will elevate it to an 'abnormal' happeneing!!!??? and bring unecessary attention to it........
I will discuss it with his parents aswell as the parents of the 5 year old girl. and I WILL NOT permit my daughter to be alone with this boy again to the best of my ability........ how will I know if I should introduce a counsellor???????
Jen,Thank you so VERY much for your time and your input !! My heart is no less heavy........ but my head is a little less befuddled!!!!!
The saddest and most 'ironic' part of this for me is that I was 'sexually violated/touched' when I was 8 but by a MUCH,MUCH older male....... I did tell and he was 'dealt with' legally......... but I was scarred and it has affected my WHOLE life....... not to the point of incapacitation per se..... I've been married for 22 years, have a GREAT Family, practiced Nursing almost 25 years , have some GREAT friends ........ but it has never and will never leave me. I don't THINK that this 'episode' will be as 'devastating' to my Daughter......... I just have to figure out how to negotiate the 'waters' so it WON'T be........... don't want to do TOO MUCH or likewise TOO LITTLE.................. :)
Again, thanks for your help!!
I completely understand and I am sorry about what happened to you when you were young, but glad you were able to overcome and deal with that. I do agree with you that it should not affect your daughter as much since the boy was younger. I think you have a great plan and it has been my pleasure to be of help. If you ever come back here you could always request me in your question if you like. I wish you and your family well.