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I am so sorry to hear that you are having these difficulties. It sounds to me that you are each in fairly entrenched positions
I would like to ask a few questions to help me clarify things in my mind, please:
1/ is the dad, the biological father?
2/ when you talk about the father having "hurt" the son, are you referring to physical or emotional violence, or both?
3/ does the father have any insight into the hurt he has caused his son?
4/ why do you think the son is so vehemently opposed to patching things up with the father? (has the father been physically violent or abusive to you, or has he seen other mistreatment?)
5/ why did you have your counselling?
6/ have you had family counselling, where all three of you go into therapy together, in the the same room?
Please rememebr that the more information I have, the more likely I am to be able to help you
sorry, one more
7/ why did you need to take 6 months away from the father? was it all because of these issues or were there other problems?
Thats it for now, I will wait for your responses; thankyou for your patience
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Hi, there seem to be problems with chat mode so I have switched to q&A mode
please answer those questions fully if you can.
Sorry, bit of problems with technology.
1. yes he is a biological father.
2.hurt was more emotional
3.he is aware that he has hurt him /him being in councelling helped/
4. that is a big question. Is he stubborn?
example today: Dad came home in the front door and my son rushed out through the back door, nearly knocking down a cupboard, and stayed behind the outside door until I called him to come in that dad went outside again.
Then he just stayed behind the door until I came out to get him and be on look out. He is bit distrustful even of me.
Then he ran to his room and locked the door. And thisn happens every day, where he is always locking himself in his room.
5. I'm trying to find solution to this problem. My husband says that we have a problem as a couple because I'm on my sons side, and when we started to try to get on the same page we were hoping to get our son there as well.
6. Not possible, because our son won't go into the same room with my husband.
7. There was lots of tension between everybody in the family. Example. Our son started to run away from home, our other son /9 y.o./ did emotional eating /he ate and ate until he vomited, when i banned him from eating he ate sticks and tissues/ . So we left because my councellor reported it to department of childrens services.
i can't find your reply. Got email saying that you replied, but can't find it. Technology problem again?