It was 2 weeks ago and there was a major blow out. She wanted to go to a "keg" party and we wouldn't let her go.
Her parents were never really together. It was a one night stand situation. My husband has not always been there but has made huge efforts in the last 5 or 6 years. Life with her mom is probably more comfortable and she is definitely not as strict.
Yes she visits twice a month. Yes, this is her other home. She has a bedroom, her own bathroom, and a lovely living room pretty much to herself. She goes to school from here. She has chores and gets an allowance.
Yes. Right before we were married he went into rehab for drug and alcohol treatment. He has tried to talk about it with her and tried to go to counceling.
pretty good. Ask as many questions as you need. Thank you
She has lived with us week on and off for 1 yr. We used to do every second weekend. She says she never has wanted to come here. She says she hates it here. She has so much freedom at her moms house and we are definitely more strict (not unreasonable). More comfortable because she has lived with her mom exclusively for most of her life. We have nicer house and things
Exactly! We fear she is more likely to be an addict. Her mom says she has rules but I have yet so see them.
We talk a lot about the fact that she could be more prone to being an addict.
Her mom gives into her fairly easy and works a job that keeps her away from the house from 7pm to 7am. She is a nurse.
I agree. We feel like we should give her space and let her come to us when she is emotionally ready to have a relationship. Keep an open door.
Yes, I agree. Her mom had her when she was 18 and her dad with addiction issues. I have always been worried that she would self destruct. We tried therapy for her early on and her mom "didn't believe in it". I do believe it is our last hope for her.
We are both very hurt. We have tried so hard with her and it has never been appreciated. She takes and takes. She shows no remorse for the things she says and does. When asked if she really hates her dad she just shrugs...."I don't know"
Thank you! You were very helpful.