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Hi, my 22 yr old daughter (23 in November) is still living

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Hi, my 22 yr old daughter (23 in November) is still living at home. I have no problem with that. However, we come from a small town and I discovered that she is seeing a complete and utter waster - he is an alcoholic (although she says he is not drinking now), he has no front teeth(!) , he is know to the local police for robbing and has been in prison. I have spoken to her and rowed with her. What is the best way to deal with this?
My daughter , I think , has very low self-esteem. Why would she want to associate herself with someone like this..has she no respect for herself.....she is a beautiful looking girl, she could have anyone but she seems to always go for an undesirable...is she looking for attention I wonder?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  earthsister replied 2 years ago.

earthsister :

Good morning, I would like to help with your issue today.

earthsister :

I do understand that you are concerned for your daughter with her dating this troublesome man. It amazes me as well to see the large number of women (and sometimes men as well) who lower their standards of dating; and so often it appears to be because these individuals have low self-esteem; this could very well be your daughter's issue. Do keep talking with her; as difficult as it may be, do your best to remain calm during the conversation and listen to her in return. Let your daughter know that she is a beautiful and talented young lady who has her life ahead of her, but that her current relationship is not what you feel is best for her. Let your daughter know that she is worthy of better, and that you suggest that she leaves that fellow behind.

earthsister :

I also suggest that you recommend a therapist for your daughter, who may be able to assist her with her issues of selfesteem; Good Therapy.org has a large list of therapist to choose from by your zip code or area (they are international as well). If you do need any further assistance with your question, please do not hesitate to message for me; I will be more than happy to help. Thanks. "earthsister."

earthsister :

and here is the actual link to Good Therapy.org: http://www.goodtherapy.org/

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