Good evening, I would like to assist you today.
Hi Good day! it's a morning for me here! :)
I can certainly understand your concerns, first of being there for your son, and second of maintaining your lucrative job.
Yea, its a kind of a cross road situation
and another thing which I did not mention
is my aged/ailing parents back home in India
they want me to return to India
but at this stage I feel my sons can not cope up with the indian education system which is very demanding
my wife is adamant that the kids have to study here in Australia
I do think, however, that another lucrative job can and will come along at some poit and time, however another opportunity to be there for your son at this time will not.
as she dont want them to get pressurized in the demanding and highly competitive environment
pardon the typo, I meant "at some point"
thats fine understood
I can definitely understand your wife's concerns as well.
I have obtained the Aust PR after spending a hell a lot of money and efforts
my wife and kids of late have been telling me to join them forever
which I am seriously thinking of
so your advise please
Would it be too much for your parents to come to Australia as well, or for you to visit them, say, every month, or other month?
that also they dont agree as they say they may not like the lifestyle there
and in addition they dont want trouble us too as they have a lot of medical ailments like
blood pressure, arthritis etc...
so i am in a bit of confused state now
I definitely recommend that you consider joining your wife and children. It must be tough on her to raise two boys on her own, without you there, and as you mentioned, the eldest could really use the guidance of a man (specifically you) as he nears adulthood himself. Don't worry about the job, family comes first, you will get another good job, but never a chance to be there again for your sons.
which my wife also says
yea, I fully agree
Stay in close contact with your parents in India, and visit them as often as possible. Maybe it can be arranged for them to have a caregiver of some kind in India to help look after them, and keep you updated on there well-being.
and do you think its possible for us to teach and preach the indian values to the boys still, though they are growing in a westernised
I think that if the Indian cultures and values are practiced by you and your wife daily in your home environment, and as naturally as possible, yes they can learn and hold these values near and dear.
ok sounds great!
thanks sister for your valuable advise
you have anything else to advise me?
It would definitely help, if it has not been done already, to find a community of Indians in Australia, and form friendships and relationships this way.
This should be good for the boys to be among other children who have a similar way of life as themselves.
You are most certainly welcome Dear Brother!
that I think is not a problem as we have decided to move into Melbourne by Nov this year
where we have some handful friends
the only concern is of me winning a job
which I guess I can over come!
Most definitely, I think that if you keep the focus on being there for your family, to support and guide them, all of the other needs will fall into place (with your dedicated effort, of course).
yes, that's for sure!
Thanks again sister and wish all the very best!
I commend you for being there for your family; it takes a true man to recognize what is needed for his family, and I see that you do.
yes, money can't buy relationships and affection!
That is right!, and you are welcome again, and all the best to you and yours as well! If you do need any further insight on this issue, please do not hesitate to message for me, "earthsister." Thank you!
cheers XXXXX XXXXX
Thanks and I will.
How are you? Glad to inform you that I have joined my family in Australia after quitting my `lucarative' job in PNG. We live in Melbourne now andit's a month since I joined my family and my wife and two sons are extremely happy with my decision and presence. I just appeared for
my CPA exam couple of days ago and will start the job hunt from next week onwards.
Thanks very much for your valuable advise which did play a major role in my decision.