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It's never easy to deal with a teen who acts out in anger or is aggressive. It sounds from what you've written that you've handled this well in the past. You don't say what led up to the encounter this morning but regardless of the cause his behavior was inappropriate and unacceptable. Since he's now at school I would spend today thinking about how best to address this when he comes home. I might suggest sitting him down and speaking to him calmly about the morning and what happened. Calmly tell him that it surprised you that he would strike you like that and that its not acceptable to do that. Ask him why he became so upset and discuss ways that you can have conflict with each other without acting out physically or using profanity. If he begins to get upset lower your voice and ask him to work with you while you discuss this. Then, once you've (hopefully) been able to explain why his actions this morning were unacceptable calmly explain that his actions have consequences and dole out the punishment for it (banned computer time, no phone for a day, grounded from an activity, etc). Let him know, also, that the next time he acts out in this way the punishment will be more severe. Hopefully you will be able to have this conversation fairly calmly since you would have both had a cooling-off period after this morning's incident. Keep your voice down as you talk to him, as if you were speaking to another adult and not your child. Keeping your voice from getting louder in volume or higher in pitch will help him to respond to you in kind.
If this has been a problem that has been escalating it might be worthwhile to have family counseling to assist in diffusing the anger and aggression and to help work on getting the two of you to communicate more effectively with one another.
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His behaviour has been unacceptable for a long and has periods of being really bad, I am afraid of who he will grow up into, is it normal for teenagers to be so angry, he is an intelligent and sensitive boy. He is coming home now and I heard him say to a friend he will meet him at his house obviously unaware anything is wrong. Is banning from a computer enough or would not taking him to a bkie race he competes in be more effective
he got up late ( I did call twice) missed school bus, was already blaming me. drove in car to catch bus up, it stopped and i overtook and beeped horn, he did not like this me beeping so he hit me and swore as he got out. I said just now how he hit me and he said it wasn't like but i have talked to him calmly how serious it is and sent him upstairs and said me and Dad will have to talk about any consequences but he's not going out now.