problem was that the entire weekend was just he and i hanging out together. now he has got a friend! other problem is he sleeps in my bed with me. i may have to rent out my office/ his bedroom to make ends meet. Times are tough.i just want him to feel comfortable, this is not the first time he has said this, and yes, i do all of the things you suggested in your answer. what to do
I do believe it is important you find a way to give him his own space, even if it is a small bed in the corner of your room, or better than that, maybe let him sleep on a foldout couch...Just a bed to call his own. Maybe give him some say in this matter. Ask him what he wants within reason. Make it his spot. I also would be careful not to over do it as far as trying to appease him. Routine is important. Limit the activity to really no more than would be going on if he was living there...of course, that is outside that regular daddy time we discussed. If you can get more time with him that might be good as well. Of course that would be between you and his mom. If you have a good relationship with her, you might even ask her what her thoughts are.
One last question. I have a program that i havent looked at yet called the total transformation by james lehman. are you familiar with this program, and if so, do you recomend that i try it!
Yes, i am familiar with it. It is very effective if you are having behavior problems. I didn't understand that was the issue though. It is very involved and might be difficult to implement on just two weekends a month. More than anything it talks about consistency and I am in total agreement with the need for that. If your ex is on board with you, it might be a good idea