Well you have a toddler who in the "terrible-two's". Certainly, not uncommon but horrendous to deal with.
When your Amy is in the midst of a full blown tantrum, keep in mind that she is even more upset than you are by what is occurring. She is also completely terrified by her loss of control with the uncontrollable emotions that she can't stop despite any effort. Do your best to ensure that Amy, as well as your son or other family members who are present don't try to argue or reason with her because she will not be able to focus on what you are saying. Also, don't raise your voice to match Amy's screams because although her anger may be contagious, your own agitation may provide fuel for her fire, prolonging the outburst in the long run. Most importantly, don't allow tantrums to relax your role as a parent, and be sure to follow through with consequences no matter where the tantrum takes place or who may be in your presence. Once Amy realizes that her tantrums affect the way you behave in certain situations, she will learn to use them to her advantage, and possibly have tantrums intentionally to get her way. No matter how you slice it, tantrums go hand-in-hand with growing up and often there is no way around them. How you handle these outbursts now are laying the groundwork for the future, so be careful how you react. Sometimes the best thing to do is the simplest...sit down, take a deep breath and count to ten.
As for potty training, she is a little young for that.
Books for Potty Training:
"Potty Time With Abby":http://www.amazon.com/Potty-Cadabby-Editors-Publications-International/dp/141277781X
"Potty Time With Elmo": http://www.amazon.com/Potty-Time-Elmo-Liittle-Sound/dp/141273486X
I do want to add that a child usually does not have sphincter control until age 3. That doesn't mean that some children aren't able to be trained before 3. However, the physical control doesn't happen until 3.
Let me ask you a question.
Has anything different happened in her life or is this just the "terrible two's?'
She is too young for time out.
Ignoring the tantrums and helping a young child learn how to deal with anger and frustration are often good ways to deal with tantrums. Pay attention to what starts the tantrums. Knowing what triggers the tantrums can help you act before your Amy's emotions get past the point where she can control them.
Most children will grow out of having temper tantrums. With time, most children learn healthy ways to handle the strong emotions that can lead to temper tantrums.
Children who still have tantrums after the age of 4 may need help learning to deal with anger. If tantrums continue or start during the school years, they may be a sign of other issues, such as learning problems or trouble getting along with other children. At this point, it is not yet a matter of seeking outside help. It is common for 2 year olds.
Oh, I just saw your question.
Have you tried stopping the nursing? If you did what was her reaction?
Some people and don't laugh when you see this have tried putting vinegar on their breasts at all times when they are going to nurse. They tell their child that mommy's breasts ( whatever she calls them) are feeling sick.Also, they have with them a bottle of milk or water --- whichever will work.
I see what you wrote. Say, I'm sorry that my boobies don't feel well, let me give you the bottle because the bottle is not sick and will taste better.
It works -- believe it or not LOL --- who likes vinegar. Just remember to soak your breasts in vinegar.
Well tell her she could have a bottle or also have a pacifier --- try either. Make sure the boobie milk tastes like crap.
Try it--- it can't hurt. Just keep me posted and let me know how things are going. My goal is to provide you with Excellent Service. So if this doesn't work you can follow-up with me and let me know her responses so we can continue to chat. Just put Dr. Shirley Schaye before your question and I will be the one to respond.
What was going on, do you think that she did that?
All children are different, as you well know.
Toilet training at her age is early --- so not to worry about that.
As for brushing her teeth --- see if you can find a toothbrush with some figure on it from a book or TV programme that she watches and make a game out of it.
Let's start with the vinegar. See what that does. Tell her --- once you have vinegar in the house and have smeared it bover your breasts that your boobies are sick and you are going to take them to the doctor.
Let me ask another question.
Was she like this before you moved to the new house two months ago?
You know what --- why don't you go to her. We can still follow-up and chat again. It is also getting late here. Don't forget to rate your question/response so Just Answer pays me. We can talk again tomorrow.
Talk to you soon. Keep me posted.