Good afternoon, I would like to assist you today
I honestly from a distance am impressed that your husband wants joint custody (50-50), that is unfortunately rare in this day and time, where many fathers (some while even still in the home) are not equally present in their children's lives, whether physically or emotionally. Your husband probably has a concern that if the children are not in his life as equally as they are in yours (with the separation) that he will loose the connection that he has with them. This has to be understood, and respected from the point of view of a father. When it comes to best interest, I am sure that your husband thinks that the children seeing him equal to you as being what is in their best interest. Seeing that the two of you created your children together (50-50), and he has been a good father to them (as you admit) I do not think that he should be rightfully denied being with his children an equal amount of time as you. I do think that what you should do is speak to him about your concerns with the children's homework; explain that the reason that you are offering the living arrangement that you did, is because you want to assure that they are keeping up with their studies; Be willing to give your husband the chance to prove that he can be the organizer for your children when he has them (after all, he has not had to do so previously, as he was probably the one working while you were at home with the kids). Yes, adjustments must be made, and that means for everyone. Suggest to him that the two of you work together to ensure a strategy that while the children are with him, there homework gets done. There is always the telephone to stay in communication with the kids about homework, as well as internet, which makes communication and sharing real easy. I do think that you have valid concerns about the children and their schooling, however I also think that your husband has valid concerns about your children being in his life as well.