Welcome to JustAnswer! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. Please note, this is not therapy, but information. I do hope I can help you.
Could you do me a favor and answer a couple questions first though? This will give me a better basis for my response. You say he is easygoing and witty. Is this with people his own age or older? Does he have any other unique personality characteristics you might note? Does he have any special interests? How many jobs has he applied for when he has been looking? Have you considered a job coach for him or at least someone that might mentor him in his job search skills? Just some thoughts that might get us heading in the right direction.
You are probably correct on the mentor for this level of job search. Actually, a family member or fiend might be able to help. it sounds as if he just needs that first job to build his confidence.
His biggest issue does not appear to be a lack of skilLs, but rather a shyness and inability to market himself. Below are some of my own pointers that:
1) Develop a resume. Even if the jobs he is looking foR do not require one, iT will help him get a better feel for what he has to offer.
2) Determine his skills and what jobs they are suited for. Focus on those jobs but dont limit himself to them.
3) Network himself. Talk to friend's and family about referring him where they work. A large portion Of jobs are secured this way
4) Go job hunting through the phonE book and doOr to door. Another large portion of jobs are found this way...Basically bY chance. You must knock a lot of doors to find A job this way. Basically, finding work is hard work.
5) Sell himself in the interview. PracTice the interview proceSs ... How to greet and shake hands, How to answer questions, etc.
These are just a few pointers i give. For a more complete list and some links go to http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Job. I really do believe if he could gain that first job he could gain the confidence he needs to better hImself;
Some things as a parent you might try:
1) Keep encouraging him.
2) Be his mentor. You havE found jobs. Share your knOwledge with Him.
3) Don,t enabLe him. I know he is shy and this is difficult, but until he faces thIs basIcally phobia he is nOt going to conquer it. Basically, cut him bacK on his allowance or sustenance to the point he feels the need to overcome his fear,
i hope this has been a help to you. If you have any questions pleas post hem here. I do want to be a help. Otherwise, I hope you will leave me a positive rating so I can be compensated for my time.
I see. The step by step instructions are not what he needs. He needs the desire and the confidence maybe to do something about it for himself. I would suggest you secure counseling for him if you can convnince him to attend. A counselor could help him work through his esteem issues as well as talk him through the job search process.
As an addendum, I am going to take a leap here and outline the symptoms of Aspergers. Please do not take this as a diagnosis, but it is what came to miind when I first read your discription of him. I was just leary of bringing it up at that poiint. Knowing wouldnt fix it either, but it would at least give understanding,
The following are criteria for Aspergers that have been excerpted from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV):
Does this sound at all like your son? Aspergers is nothing to fear. Many people with great success in life have been diagnosed with Aspergers, including Bill Gates. Other noteables are likely Einstien and other great minds of the past. Your son sounds very smart and gifted. It just sounds he may have difficulty relating to his enviroment.
I hope you don't find this offensive. I really cannot diagnose from here. But this did come to mind. Please ask any questions and I will respond as soon as I become available.