How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask earthsister Your Own Question

earthsister
earthsister, Parent
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 141
Experience:  Home Child Care Provider, and mother of 4; two pre-teen boys and twin baby girls.
67703226
Type Your Parenting Question Here...
earthsister is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

My step son stayed with us for two weeks recently and then

Customer Question

My step son stayed with us for two weeks recently and then went back to his mom's as we returned to our usual visitation schedule. She typically has him five days and we get him two. He came back to our house after two days and the first day back he randomly kept telling his father and I that he loves us, will always love us, and that he never wants to loose us. I have been with his father for two years now and my step son is 7. He recently told is that his mom is engaged to someone she met on the internet. Is this normal for him to just randomly say these things and tell us them about 2-4time in a half hour or should we be concerned?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  earthsister replied 2 years ago.

earthsister :

Good evening, I would like to work to assist you with your question.

earthsister :

I think that if your stepson is repeating that he loves you and his father and he never wants to loose you, and that's not something he typically does, I would not assume that it is normal; however we must consider his age. He is 7, and at this point in a child's development, they are beginning to understand a lot more about life, as well as death; so maybe in some way he may be thinking about this. Have you or his father questioned why he said he doesn't want to loose you?

earthsister :

meaning have you asked him?

earthsister :

I would first suggest that if you haven't already, that you and his father ask him why he said that he didn't want to loose you. Is it something that he's seen? Heard about? Why is that a concern for him. Secondly, if your husband has a respectable relationship with your step son's mother, I would suggest that he make her aware of what he is saying, and ask her if there is any particular reason that he may be saying this; perhaps she has heard the same thing. Your stepson also, knowing that his mom is engaged may be fearing the idea of a new man stepping in the position as a father, or he may even feel as though he is loosing his mother to her fiancee. This is why I say that it would help if his father has a good enough relationship with his mother to talk to her about these things concerning your stepson.

earthsister :

This way, if there is anything that his mother can do on her end to ease his fears of losing you and his father in some way that would be a big help. Another thought is that your stepson may have enjoyed being with you and his father for the two weeks, that he's having a hard time readjusting to life back at his mom's. If this is the case, see if your husband can talk to her about keeping him for longer periods more often. Maybe being around you and his father more often will help him to see your permanence in his life.

Expert:  earthsister replied 2 years ago.
Hi


I'm just following up with you to see how everything is going. Did my answer help?


Let me know,
earthsister

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Last | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Family Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    108
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Family Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    108
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/jhollo77/2010-2-6_651_Avatar.jpg Jennifer's Avatar

    Jennifer

    School Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    77
    Collaborative parent consultation on everything from modifying behavior to child development.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/VO/vodkas25/2012-1-29_16528_P1010831.64x64.JPG professional_Alison's Avatar

    professional_Alison

    Child Care

    Satisfied Customers:

    77
    Degree in early years,16 years experience in childcare
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    40
    Licensed as psychologist and marriage and family therapist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg NormanM's Avatar

    NormanM

    Author, lecturer and psychotherapist.

    Satisfied Customers:

    19
    ADHP(NC), DHP, ECP, UKCP Registered
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KA/KaterB1270/2012-5-2_17226_016.64x64.jpg KaterB1270's Avatar

    KaterB1270

    Teacher

    Satisfied Customers:

    18
    BS Family Consumer Sciences Ed. and Masters of Art in Teaching
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KA/Kansastherapist/2012-6-13_171911_4upon20120220at14.64x64.jpg KansasTherapist's Avatar

    KansasTherapist

    LSCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    17
    17 years experience with depression, abuse, and borderline.
 
 
 

Related Parenting Questions

Chat Now With A Parenting Counselor
earthsister
earthsister
139 Satisfied Customers
Home Child Care Provider, and mother of 4; two pre-teen boys and twin baby girls.