Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families. I am also a mom of Twins.
tell me about your child and the routine at night
Without knowing some of the background I will offer some things and then wait to hear back from you so we can chat.
it is not uncommon at this age for him to begin climbing out of his crib. He may be ready for a bed...or a step down from the crib.
When he climbs out what does he do?
I would also have a consistent time for bed and it could be that his is going to bed too late where he has caught a second wind and is unable to wind down.
Does he nap? what time does he go down for a nap and what time does he wake up from the nap? all of these questions are important to answer so we can try and figure out what the causes might be that he isn't going to sleep and maybe make some adjustments...sometimes small adjustments go a long way.
The routine is so crucial and something to follow the same way every night so it becomes predictable for him so he knows what the cues and signals are to winding down. Such as dinner, warm milk, a bath a story and then down for sleep.
she usually comes down to see us and we are watching TV, and just wants to sit on the couch with us and try to play. We usually try a few times to take her upstairs and put her back down, but again five minutes later she comes walking downstairs, which gets tiring. In the end, she sits there and sometimes falls asleep on the couch, or maybe by the fifith time of trying to put her to bed (now around 9:30pm), she will finally stay in her crib. My wife is thiking of getting a tent for the crib, which we never had to get for the first thee kids. She still naps, usually from 1-3pm. With four kids its hard to have a normal routine, but I would say it is pretty normal, dinner, bath, TV, story, bed
What time are you first trying to put her down?
yes it is tiring but if you stick with it with no wiggle room. I would keep walking her back to her crib without talking and do this a hundred times if you have to.
I might suggest trying to put her down a bit earlier.
she just does not seem tired, even at 8pm, also hard with four kids, but I hear you
yes and she probably thinks she is missing something by going to bed.
she sees the family sitting and watching tv and wants to be a part of things
what is she eating from 3pm on?
snacking a little, and then dinner (changes every night) and then usually ice cream after (since the other kids want it), none of my kids are the best eaters
that is the culprit...thank you for sharing that....that sugar after dinner is keeping her wound up.
so hard with the other kids I know but she is younger and cannot have ice cream and go to sleep
that is the reason why she is not tired