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do you have any suggestions?
What kind of things have you tried already to stop this?
time-out, taking stuff away
Have you had a conversation with him, to explain that such behavior is unacceptable?
yes, i have tried...don't seem to be working...he act's up more when I or his dad are around
ok, and how long has this been happening?
so many people have told me.. "Well he was good until you got here"....it's going on about 7 months
My first suggestion would be to continue to talk to him about his behavior. Talking back is a common behavior for 5 year olds, as they are gaining greater cognitive ability to respond to the words and actions of others. Be sure that your 5 year old is not witnessing others talking back, such as an older sibling, peers, or even you yourself, as commonly the behaviors that young children adapt come directly from their daily environments.
Let him know that such behavior is unacceptable, and will give others a cause to not like him (not you of course because you love him), but that talking back makes your relationship with him difficult.
Give him the opportunity to express himself in pictures or even to write his feelings down in a journal. My mother told me when I was younger that I was free to talk back in my own mind; because realistically, that's where the talking back stays, because no one else can hear your thoughts. Encourage him to not talk back by giving him little rewards for his good behavior (especially at times when he generally would have talked back in the past, but doesn't.) Rewards are a far better way to achieve results with children than punishments are, because the children look forward to receiving the rewards again and again.
Here as well is an article that outlines some of the reasons that 5 year olds talk back, and help on what to do about it: http://www.babycenter.com/0_talking-back-why-it-happens-and-what-to-do-about-it_66568.bc I noticed that you mentioned others saying that he was good "until you got here." He could be talking back as a way of expressing his anger or being upset about a change in his everyday life (perhaps a move to a new house, school, or day care). Hang in there Mom, children have ways of testing our patience, but understand that he is a child, and children go through many phases and stages throughout their growth (you and I did as well). Keep being patient, and talking to him to find the root, and solution of the problem. If I can assist you in any other way, please let me know. Happy Holiday!