First of all, I just want to say that as a mother myself, my heart goes out to you
As parents we try to protect our children and seeing them hurt is painful indeed
While you can suggest that your daughter ditch her friends, that may be very difficult for her without having new ones to spend time with
My suggestions are as follows:
1. Find a therapist in your area to help your daughter manage her feelings - I can help with referrals if you send me the closest major city to you 2. Find out what interests your daughter and enroll her (with her permission) in 2 such activities (group activities like organized sports, theater, etc. where she can develop new friendships
Katie is an avid cheerleader (so is charlotte) and we already have her in a club team which she loves. Thankfully charlotte is not in this club. this has been a wonderful distraction but it doesn't address the problem of being pushed out of the group. We have encouraged Katie for years to try to extend her friend net but as mentioned, she is slow to warm and is worried that she will be rejected. We have told her that this is worth the risk of someone saying no because maybe they won't! On observing her, she is well received (girls outside her group) by warm hellos and what looks like good interactions.