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Are you familiar with abdominal breathing?
Abdominal breathing is very effective for slowing down hyperventilation. Children seem to be able to use it more easily than adults.
It's easiest lying down ---have you tried that with her?
problem is, we are in very heavy custody battle
she told me she has it in moms house often
Yes, that would trigger a TON of anxiety for her!
step dad is nuts
i was always amicable with mom for 6 years
What is the step dad doing?
telling her I am possesed by the devil
You are kidding me! That is cruel.
thats just one of 1000 things
bathing her against her will
I would report him to child protective services....
showing her how he can kill
Keep reporting ---Has she seen a therapist?
took me 2 years to get the records and now they are old
therapist was cancelled by mom
Did the therapist report?
court always orders it again, I go, but then the therapist has to stop because mom doesnt do same
Do you happen to be in CA?
therapist did not get same from my daughter as I, but says he doesnt see any ilness and to believe her
yes, in CA
OK...great....contact this guy: http://www.danielrybicki.com/
He is an amazing expert regarding this type of situation.
And he knows everyone in the field.
cool! I was just about to die! 4 years of this is too much
I can't even imagine. Your heart must be breaking.
it was unforgettable to see my daughter cry, then shake enormously and then 'Daddy, help me, I cant breathe'
I cry every day now
I bet --this sounds horrible.
he has threatened me, wants to adopt etc.
That's not right --you are her father.
child psych said: she is very resilient, but she will eventually break down
evenly aligned with mom and me
although she never wanted to go home between 5-8
I hope that Dr. Rybicki can help you. He's an extremely caring man too boot.
thank you so much! Is my daughter having a break down?
"Break down" is a vernacular term --there's really no such thing --anxiety for sure. Stress for sure. Possibly trauma reaction too.
Its so unbelievable, I was more the mom, I had an employee do my work and had her all day
Sounds like you two are very attached/bonded.
we are so close, and now she stopped telling me things
cps said we seemed very bonded
I'm sure she's confused about how to handle the situation.
she knows I will call for help if she tells me stuff
then she gets punished
That makes sense --so she is trying to survive.
i dont know how to handle it, I gained 65 pounds, lost most of my business
It sounds like you could use some support through all of this.
I asked everywhere how to deal with this, no answer
situational, they say
Have you heard of the term "530 evaluation" ?
get a good lawyer and take your xanax
is that a more evolved custudy eval?
we were ordered custody eval, she didnt go
How can she get away with that??
the psychologist said he is reputable and thus although you can start that alone, he wouldnt
old judge was about to get mad, now we got a judge she knows
we had 326/327 eval
it said partial, but up to today I dont know what that means?
Hmmm....I don't know what that means either.
everything the court ordered, cell phone, child psych, was worthless. they even take custody time away
they pick her up early from school and disappear
It just doesn't sound kosher
fought 8 months of lice without help from mom
meaning it seems like they are getting away with something right now.
The school never calls CPS?
they are in the school, they live across from the school, volunteer, and step dad and the female principal both lost their kids to their ex completely
So they are on a mission then ---
very much so
they tell me so, they will never give up
Well, it sounds like neither will you!
Yes, she needs you.
my new lawyer understands more, so maybe? he wants psych eval on step dad. court mediator writes that parents arefine
can you get psych eval on stepdad?
She asked me to befriend him and take him to Holland and shoot him
We're stepping a bit outside of my expertise -so I don't know how that works. But --for sure Dr. Rybicki knows.
I have a tape where she wants to get the cat out of the house and then bomb the house
I think she meant both
my daughter said ths
Oh, OK....i see
6 year old then
i told her she shouldnt think that way
she said 'I know', but its a good idea
But --it shows how she is feeling ---desperate.
i thought she was doing much better now, she is 9.
But she just doesnt say much anymore, it became physical
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Thank you, and
i will follow up
Good. I hope that there is a break through soon for you and your daughter.
thank you, XXXXX XXXXX very helpful!