Thank you for taking my question. I took several pictures of the bike, but I am not sure if I want to confront them. I don't think the girl's parents know about this sleep over.
So if she is there, should I let them fall back to sleep in the same room? What should we talk about in the morning?
Also, should I inform her mom?
I also have another question about your comment on sexual intercourse. 'Your son has not asked you permission and although he is old enough to have sexual intercourse, it is something that should have been agreed by you first.' How so?
I see what your point now. The problem is they could have asked for a sleep over instead of sneakily arrange this by themselves. So in your opinion, I should let her parents know this in the morning, right?
Got it. Thank you for your advise. I will do that. Will keep you posted with what happens. Thank you.
Hi there, I am just checking in to see how things are and what has happened with the situation between your son and his girlfriend?
I had another thought that if your son is sleeping with his girlfriend and he may not tell you either way you do need to discuss contraception with him. He may find this embarrassing but it is your responsibility as a parent. I am guessing the girl may have said she was staying at a girl friends when she was with your son so her parents are also going to be very annoyed and disappointed that she has lied to them too.
The key here is to work with your son's girlfriends parents too, if they forbid her to stay at your house then you have to respect that. If they say its ok then the decision is then put into your hands. Would you be happy for her to stay over and your husband too? Are you comfortable that they are handling contraception responsibly?
A fact i feel relevant here is, if they are sleeping together would it not be better to know that they are safely indoors rather than sneaking around doing it in cars, parks or on the streets. If youngsters are going to engage in intercourse and they are not under age, you dont have any rights to stop them. At the end of the day it is down to personal opinion and style of parenting. In this day and age parents have to be realistic about the expectations they have upon their children. Expecting them to wait until they leave home just because you say so is not realistic I am afraid.
Your son owes you an apology for going behind your back too.
It will be interesting to see how they react to being caught if this is to be the case. This will also be an indication of their maturity. I hope you have managed to confront them and discuss what happened and it wasn't too difficult speaking with the girlfriends parents. I look forward to assisting you further.