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i have been able to smell the alcohol in his breath and the way he acts is different, he is not doing very good in school, he is failin all his classes.
how much drinking he is doing i'm not so sure, its mostly beer and i do believe its more than a 6 pack
Hello there, may I help you? I have a few different ideas on this matter. Children of 16 will start to experiment with drinking when with friends. Whats important is that you discuss safety with him. The fact that he is only 16. It is all illegal and he could get into trouble when caught.
As you say his grades are failing at school. Try to discuss alternative options to going out with friends drinking. Encourage him to join some clubs or take up a hobby. Try to get him to have friends to the house or go bowling and to the cinema.
Drinking is part of a teenager experimenting and learning a degree of independence. I don't think there is anything wrong with you allowing your son to have one beer at home where he is supervised with friends but going out and getting drunk on the streets is dangerous for his health and safety.
You need to put this point across to him gently expressing that you love him, understand he wants to experiment, but to do it sensibly.