i have tried that but if i remove privileges etc his father and stepmother just replace them and actively encourage him to hit me or cause damage to the home i have previously had him in therapy etc even had him arrested only to then recieve the same treatment from his father and stepmother
ok thankyou i may have to try that as a last resort he certainly will not change his ways for me maybe if he gets a shock like that he will realise as i know his father wont take him on
my son is by the way 14
His Father is putting these terrible ideas in his head and mis guiding himn, would his Father be happy to have him live there I wonder
He is happy to make your life difficult but what would he do if you told your son he had to leave...
You have to play a clever game here with both your ex husband and you son in order that your husband stops putting bad ideas in his head and that your son starts treating you with the respect you deserve.
If he is faced with prospect of having to make a choice of start beahving or move out he will have a shock and have to make a decision, it will also make him see his Father in a different light if he wont let him live there!
Stay strong here, remember to make this your sons choice and not that you are throwing him out.
14 is a difficult age and your son is probably very unhappy inside hence the anger and agression.
thankyou i really was stuck with that one will certainly try that maybe when his father gets to see what he has caused i will get my son back a better person