Thank you it is certainly not enriching his life and is making him unhappy but I really need to know whether the court can insist that he sees his mother or whether at 11 he is able to decide for himself. His is an extremely mature 11 year old and has a very good understanding of the situation and is more than capable of making an informed decision. There is a long and complex background but suffice to say that his mother is extremely difficult and will use any method to get her own way. I would have thought that a child of 11 who is so obviously unhappy should at least be listened to and his wishes considered and taken into account. My understanding is that the court have said that he "should be encouraged to see his mother" but it seems that his wishes are being ignored.