Petty? Not at all. If she is living with you, you deserve the respect for yourself and your home. That is her responsibility and she can either do it or live somewhere else? You are helping her to become a productive adult and show respect for others wishes. I don't see that your wishes are unreasonable at all. She is luck that is all you require to do around the house she lives in.
Thats what I though
you are on target Mom!
hard to set the boundaries, I know but you can do it.
Im a dad but ok
oh so sorry Dad. Let me rephrase that. you are on target Dad!
forget the reasoning...these are your rules.
reasoning hasnt worked and she probably just wears you down. So, sit her down let her know these are the rules and requirements and it is up to her to hold up her end of what is required in your home.
you can also let her know that you are growing tired of the disrespect and set a boundary around that too. At 19 she should be past those adolescent struggles a bit
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One last question. How do I set a boundry around disrespect if she just choses not to do it.
doesnt have to be your last question by the way....
And yes we have sat down and talk about this calm and cool she agrees at the time and then it does not happen
She is living quite comfortable under your roof and attending college. I would have a sit down talk with her...not in anger but in love and let her know how you feel when she disrespects you. Once you have done that be very clear on what you want from her....clean the bathroom once per week, speak to you in a manner that shows disresepct
ok and what priveleges do you extend to her? money, car, home, you tell me
you can let her know that if she doesnt show the respect that you are asking for bye bye money
I try that aand guess what. I always give in. Sucker
and then you must follow through with it
I knew it!
not sucker loving DAD
Thats my problem no follow through. And I know that. It hurts. LOL
I truly get it! I am a Mom and they work us good but think of it that you are helping her in her adult relationships!
she knows she doesnt have to follow through because you give in. Time to get tough
Ok I will do it tonight. We will have a conversation and I will stick to my guns. You are right. Thank you so much. I found you by accident how do I get up with you again.
Excellent. I am proud of you and I am sorry I assumed you were a Mom. You are a very loving Dad. When you want me again at the beginning of a new question put for CoachJenK only at the beginning. Come back to www.JustAnswer.com
You have been a great help. Money well spent have a great day and you will be hearing from me soon. Thank you
wonderful. Thank you for that kind feed back. I look forward to hearing from you again.