KansasTherapist : Hello
KansasTherapist : Your experience of struggling with anxiety and getting through it to achieve emotional stability, is a great example for your daughter.
KansasTherapist : Have you talked with her about what you went through?
KansasTherapist : I think the advice you gave her was very good.
KansasTherapist : And she followed though with your suggestion to see a therapist, so hopefully that will help.
I have found therapy to be very helpful. Should I go there?
KansasTherapist : I don't think it's a good idea for you to go out there unless she can't function.
KansasTherapist : I think that would cause her to feel like she can't make it on her own.
I don't want her to feel that
KansasTherapist : No, of course not. You want her to feel supported.
KansasTherapist : Has she tied about wanting to come home?
KansasTherapist : Talked
No. In fact, she said that. She said she would feel like a failure.
KansasTherapist : So she feels strong enough to keep working at it.
For the time being/
KansasTherapist : What kinds of things help you with anxiety?
Therapy was the most significant. I stayed in therapy for several years.
KansasTherapist : In the moment, feeling anxious, how do you cope?
I am much older now and I have used a self-talk approach that I was taught by my therapist. I have also been very successful in many areas of my life and I think you begin to see you can be successful. I also do things like yoga and I write poetry.
KansasTherapist : Have you share those coping skills with her?
I tried. She does exercise. But I also feel like she's not hearing me or believing they will work yet. She has to experience that. Last night when she was refusing to go to sleep I told her to put her laptop in bed and watch music videos on youtube or to look at a tv show to distract herself from thinking about bugs. She tries everything I tell her to. I just hate it that she is struggling as I did. It took a long time to pull myself out of it.
KansasTherapist : I also find that meditation helps with anxiety. Hit helps control anxious thoughts.
KansasTherapist : Wildmind.org is a web site that teaches meditation.
Thank you for that site reference. The problem is that when you are in an extremely agitated state, it is nearly impossible to rein in your thoughts enough to meditate. I think you have answered my question: should I go there. The answer is no. This just has to play out. The quicker I can get her into therapy, the better.
KansasTherapist : Yes.
Thank you. It has been helpful just to talk to someone.
KansasTherapist : You're completely welcome.