I have a 17 year old son. He has always been pleasant, respectful, smart, goodlooking, has a bright future ahead of him. College plans are the University of Ar. 3.75 GPA and 32 Act. His entire life that is where he has wanted to go to college. Now 2 months ago he starts dating a girl (1 month after breaking up with a girl he dated for 2 years) and everything has changed. He doesn't want to attend the university anymore he want to go to a community college where she is going. She is always causing drama at school and with his friends, manipulating him into feeling sorry for her because she has been hurt before. OH BROTHER. I would guess there are some sexual things going on although my son swears they are not having intercourse. I can't believe this is the same guy who has been so smart all his life and cannot see through this. She will be the type to get pregnant of purpose just to try to hold on to him because she already told him she will die if they don't get to go to the same college and every time he does anything with his friends she causes some big drama if she is not included. Do you know of any material I can give him on manipulating controlling girls that would help him see the light?
I would like to help you with your question.
Are you waiting for a reply for your previous Expert - L Benson, or are you wanting a new Expert.
As I said, I would be happy to assist you.
I found an article for you. Give me a minute and I will cut & paste it into this chat.
In the meantime, I understand your concern for your son. His life had been going in one direction, and all of a sudden he is headed down a different path - and only because of a new girlfriend. Certainly this is not what you wanted your son to do, nor expected he would do. And, as you pointed out, he is NOT thinking with his brain but likely with a different part of his body! And this girl has way too much influence at this point in his life.
I have a few questions: has he already applied for and been accepted at the University of Ar?
The one thing you have to keep in mind is that love relationships with kids don't always last...however, you still have to deal with the reality that he does not want to go to the University and getting that solved is critical.
If you would answer my question I would appreciate it.
I'll be back in a few minutes with the article...
Okay...this may be a bit provocative for an adolescent - I admit it - but perhaps you could read through this and think about how to approach him with some of this information. I apologize if you find this a little to much...but I think you are smart enough to figure out that what has changed with your son is due to the sexual nature of the relationship and her ability to manipulate him.
I will try to find another article...but material on adolescents is not as prevalent. Still...I will do another search.
Meanwhile, let me know your response.
I found something better....
As your relationship with a new person in your life has developed, you find your old friends falling away, while family members remark on how you don't seem like yourself. Are you losing yourself to an odd, and ultimately destructive, relationship? Before you can regain your individuality and strength, you'll need to determine whether the relationship is taking something away, and, if so, you must put an end to the destructive cycle.
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Sorry...looks like the last post was duplicated.
Hope this helps!