Whilst I appreciate all that you have said we are all very much aware of all of the points you have raised as in withholding privileges, his body changes and the traumas he underwent with his illness. As indicated he does not appear to be upset if privileges are withheld and the only thing he really cares about is his leggo - at which he is brilliant. As for his long battle with cancer of which only 1 in four survive, my daughter is a very strong person and one of her strongest points was not giving in to him and giving him everything - we actually credited her along with the medical proffessionals for getting him through.
He will be having another baseline hearing test to see if his hearing has deteriorated further and whether this is contibuting to the problem.
I guess I'm just enquiring as to whether children that have gone through terrible illnesses are more prone to psychological issues.
Thank you. Yes you seem to be on the mark with the depressive/ dark place that he appears to be at the moment. This is our concern. He is a gorgeous kid but, loves to have friends but from our perspective has only really one genuine friend with whom he has had differences with towards the end of the last school year. I think he believes he has a lot of friends - but we don't really believe this to be the case. There were many who were wanting to be his friend when he had a bald head etc but once he returned to the normal realm of life the attraction wasn't there anymore. He is not really an overly social child but loves to be involved in things and has a great zest for life. Not a great conversationalist unless you get him one on one and its a topic that really excites him.