Hello, My name is Ja`Ree and I am a mental health counselor. It sounds as though the game is not as important to your daughter as you would like for it to be. Have you talked with her to see if she wants to continue to play? Is she maybe interested in doing something else? It sounds as though that you need to sit down as a family and talk about whether or not she wants to continue playing or if she would be happier doing something else. With her being 17 it is important to keep the lines of communication open between you and her so that you can help her make the right decisions for herself when the time comes for her to graduate and move on with her life. Let me know if I can assist you further with this issue. Thank you.