His first year was very difficult, nightmares, no communication skills, no personal boundaries, a lot of frustration on both sides. The last year has been much better, I would say most of his behaviors were those of a 3 year old boy.
Now it is almost like he is pushing boundaries, in a very dramatic way. Most of his anger is focused on his little brother, so it is worse at home and at daycare. I would not call most of his behaviors as disrespectful, it is almost like he is flashing back to survival mode, fight or flight. We still have times when he is very good.
I do not know anything about his dad, mom used meth and is now in jail.
Another thing not sure if it is related or not so I will throw it out there... he does not play by himself, or really play using toys and his imagination without others, he plays with others, plays with balls, play fights or sits quietly with his cat. So he can be calm and he plays but he has to have interaction with others while he is playing. Lots of mom watch this, Wyatt play with me... Dad look what I can do, look at my big muscles...