Thank you...how do I find out from her WHY she did it? Is telling her that she is no longer allowed to hang out or play with this other girl right?? I just don't want her to rebel against us and do the opposite of what we tell her. Is taking her prized possessions (IPOD, DS, Computer etc) enough of a punishment or is it too much? When I was younger if we got caught doing anything like this we would have for sure got spanked or worse, I just want her to know we are very unhappy and that she needs to take this seriously.
Thank you...I will try your suggestions.