What is her day time schedule for sleep / naps?Does she sleep at all in the day?
What about activities?
she sleeps a hour the most around midday but not everyday, ive tried to stop this nap but even if she doesnt have 1 she still dont sleep at night. shes an active toddler plays with her older sister (age 4) she is busy most of the day
To be honest, this is a well known issue with toddlers, and the only thing that works in my opinion (other than a specific bed time routine), is getting the child to "burn off" the excess energy that leads to these episodes of disrupted sleep
You would want to rule out any underlying problem though,
Here are the red flags for possible sleep disorder in toddlers
Sometimes a "comfort toy" may help in getting the child back to sleep too
Let your child bring toys or comfort objects to bed. A comfort object can help ease fears and separation anxiety in the middle of the night. This can be a favorite blanket or teddy bear or stuffed animal. Don't worry about your child playing with the object for awhile before he falls asleep. It may be easier for your child to soothe himself to sleep without you if he has an object to hold onto.
Finally here are some parents view of how they have dealt with similar sleep issues in toddlers,
The goods news is that "this too shall pass" it is a developmental thing for most toddlers, though I share your concern regarding the sleepless nights for you and the child :) being the parent of a toddler myself
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