How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Bonnie Your Own Question

Bonnie
Bonnie, Psychologist
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 2180
Experience:  and pediatric nurse practitioner with 30 years of experience counseling parents.
37122071
Type Your Parenting Question Here...
Bonnie is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Since the birth of his sibling my six year old wakes up in

Customer Question

Since the birth of his sibling my six year old wakes up in the middle of the night and wanders through the house. Is there anything that can be done?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  Bonnie replied 2 years ago.
Hello and thank you for consulting JA,

Does he seem to be sleep walking or is he awake? How old is the baby? Does the 6 year old have any health or developmental problems? Is the baby's crying waking him?

Bonnie, Psychologist
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 2180
Experience: and pediatric nurse practitioner with 30 years of experience counseling parents.
Bonnie and other Parenting Specialists are ready to help you
Expert:  Bonnie replied 2 years ago.
I owe you an answer. Are you able to reply to my questions?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
My six year old is above average in intelligence. He reads at a second grade level and does math at third grade. He is not sleep walking, but is wide awake. The other night at 4 am he took my blackberry from the night stand and was texing people. I do not know if my 2 month old is waking him or not. Their bedroom is on the secon floor. Ours is on the first. When I go to get the baby, when she wakes up (we have a baby monitor) my six year old seems to be asleep.
Expert:  Bonnie replied 2 years ago.
Hello again and thank you for the additional information,
This could certainly be a reaction to the new baby albeit unconscious (some resentment about all the attention baby gets). But, no matter the cause, it is going to require a clear behavior management strategy.

Make the rule clear: no getting out of bed (except to bathroom and back);
Use positive reinforcement first: If you stay in bed all night (no wandering), you will get a sticker to be used towards a bigger reward on weekend. Five stickers = motivating reward.
If this does not work, add a consequence for each infraction: take a favorite toy or activity away for a few days (i.e. can't watch favorite show or play screen game for a few days).

Your dilemma is knowing if he is wondering since he is on a different floor. Consider having him sleep on your level or you sleeping on his until this behavior ceases.

I hope you will find that this strategy work. Warm regards...
Expert:  KaterB1270 replied 2 years ago.

In reading the information request above my thoughts would be as follows.

 

If the child is just walking around at night once they are awake you need to make a clear expectation that it is not OK to do this. You must make them live up to this expectation. I suggest if the child is just wandering to place a gate with a lock in the door way. If the child would be able to get over the gate then install another gate on top. I would also suggest a simple rewards chart. Have your child pick some small reward they would like to work for. I think doing things like going to the park with mom/dad or going to ______________ with a friend. I also suggest having he/she help set up the chart before using it. By having the child take ownership they will work harder to meet your expectations.

 

Hope this helps with your situation.

If this has helped please click ACCEPT to show your gratitude.

 

Thanks, Kate

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Last | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Family Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    108
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Family Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    108
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/jhollo77/2010-2-6_651_Avatar.jpg Jennifer's Avatar

    Jennifer

    School Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    77
    Collaborative parent consultation on everything from modifying behavior to child development.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/VO/vodkas25/2012-1-29_16528_P1010831.64x64.JPG professional_Alison's Avatar

    professional_Alison

    Child Care

    Satisfied Customers:

    77
    Degree in early years,16 years experience in childcare
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    40
    Licensed as psychologist and marriage and family therapist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KA/KaterB1270/2012-5-2_17226_016.64x64.jpg KaterB1270's Avatar

    KaterB1270

    Teacher

    Satisfied Customers:

    18
    BS Family Consumer Sciences Ed. and Masters of Art in Teaching
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KA/Kansastherapist/2012-6-13_171911_4upon20120220at14.64x64.jpg KansasTherapist's Avatar

    KansasTherapist

    LSCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    17
    17 years experience with depression, abuse, and borderline.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HE/heidi1107/2012-2-18_15325_Heidi.64x64.jpg Heidi LPC's Avatar

    Heidi LPC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    16
    Licensed Professional Counselor