Yes, my daughter is an only child. Her personality is more like her father's, but she is like both of us. No one in the family is diagnosed clinically, but many have issues. I've raised her pretty much alone with family only visiting occasionally. Her father sees her every couple of weeks. I do not work outside the home. My daughter has never been in daycare, but has had issues with elementary school teachers. Some were founded, though many weren't, and I always remained involved taking up for her as well as supporting her teachers. She is an excellent student.
Yes to all, but I'm not super-organized-- she's actually better organized than I am sometimes, and I'm reasonably neat, but not overly so-- I expect basics like trash in the trashcan, clothes picked up... we've had clutter issues in the past, but I've gotten them under control, and she was reasonable in helping to do her part. I'd say she's fairly cooperative relative to other kids when it comes to household things. I'm not sure how accomplished she perceives me to be. It's something I struggle with as a stay-at-home mom. My life is more punctuated by her father's visits than anything else. Sometimes I worry that because she has seen me subjected to his controlling ways and not have my own income that she thinks less of me even though I've tried to provide as much stability for her as possible. She's never had to move, switch schools, be shuffled from parent to parent. She's had a lot of health issues over the years, which made it very hard for me to work since she missed a lot of school. I also haven't had any way to have care for her on school breaks-- I did work for almost two years, during which time she was sick often, and it was a fiasco. I don't have any family support whatsoever for her care, and even when I was working it was hard to find help when I had days off or when she was sick.
Thank you so much for your reply. What do I do now that she has said horrible things, and I've told her she can pack and go live with her father? Do I need to address any of this with her?