Thank you for your response. They will find anything and everything to argue about, from who is right to what the other one is thinking. I used to think it was due to a need for more one on one time with both their father and I. So I set aside a day for each one to have two hours with me and a separate day for them to have special time with their father. Yes, both of us parents are living together and have been since before the oldest was born. They have always squabbled, however, it seems to be happening more frequently and with more intensity. The anger usually comes from my daughter, to the point where she is bawling and saying how much she hates her brother, which is a word that is not allowed to be said in our home. I just don't feel that all the anger she is experiencing is healthy and good for her. Any suggestions on what I can do or say to help her work through whatever it is that is upsetting her?
My daughter starts her fair share of the bickering, however, my son is just as guilty. They take turns on who is antagonizing the other. My daughter is just way more vocal with her outbursts. She will start screaming at him, wishing that he was never born or callimg him names. I would like advice on how to get both of them to at least be civil towards one another. It just makes it so hard to have any fun as a family, to spend any quality family time when they are at each others throats every 10 minutes.