I am the long time girlfriend. I have a 21 yr old daughter. This young lady has a 15 yr old brother that since Sept. now lives full time with Dad (at sons request because of volitle situation at moms) , and a younger 7 yr old brother that goes back and forth between Mom & Dads, then a 2 year old bother by a different father who only lives with the Mom.
Her Mom is financially & emotionally a wreck, does not stay on medication (depression), moves with kids (within the small town they live) about every 6 mo. Can't hold a job long, only working weekends now, youngst child dad is in prison (no support), recent boyfriend has restraining order against her, had furniture repo'ed last week, alcohol & drugs are ongoing issues and on and on and on. Mother has no family in area. Parents assist a bit, but live 2 states away. They are frustrated with her lack of irresponsibility
We believe she is using 14 year old daughter for companionship ,discussing all her problems and such. Mother has no friends now. We know the daughter is responsible a lot for 2 younger kids and meals. Child protective services have been involved, due to leaving 7 year old at park instead of calling the father when she couldnt afford a sitter. After investigation, CPS did not think they had enough to remove kids.
Father has discussed daughter coming to live with him full time as well as 7 yr old. She says no no no way. We think possibly mom has threatened suicide or something like that to daughter. Daughter won't discuss reasons. Daughter may feel she is responsible for wellfare of 2 year old that has no other adult in picture.