I am so...ooo very sorry to hear about the difficulties you are having with your son. Let me ask you a question. I see that in your response you mentioned that the country relating to your question is England but in the customer information it says US. So since you are offline now, the response I will give you is for help in England. If that is not correct, please let me know and I will redirect my response to where you are in the US. So... ... my response for England.
If it's in England contact the Anna Freud Centre. They have the VERY BEST treatment facilities for child treatment. You will need to contact them and ask them for someone in the area you are looking for.
"The Anna Freud Centre is committed to improving the emotional well-being of children and young people. We provide excellent treatments and services that work for young people who are suffering from mental health problems.
We offer short-term and long-term specialist treatments for children and families and we’re often called on when other treatments have failed. We advise and offer direct support to parents and provide help for children and young people in emotional distress and at risk, helping to put them back on track for a brighter future."
Children don't sit down and tell us what they are upset about/ what is bothering them. They act out. They show destructive behaviour. Because children don't talk that's why we child therapists do play therapy with children. The child when in a therapist's office will engage in play and then the therapist can interpret what is going on. Only by bringing him to a child therapist will you be able to determine what is going on with him. There is no way to guess what is going on without knowing further details. The Anna Freud Centre will certainly be able to help. Our very best trained child therapists here in the US were trained by people who trained at the Anna Freud Centre.
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